Showing posts with label loss. Show all posts
Showing posts with label loss. Show all posts

Monday, September 30, 2013

Virginia Morell - Mournful Creatures (Animals and Grief)


From the current issue of Lapham's Quarterly, Virgina Morell has written an excellent, captivating, and extensive article on the experience of grief among animals, human and (mostly) otherwise. Brilliant writing and content that reminds me we are simply one animal among many, and little about our experience of life is unique.

Morell mentions two recent books in this section of the article: How Animals Grieve, by anthropologist Barbara J. King, and The Bonobo and the Atheist: In Search of Humanism Among the Primates, by primatologist Frans de Waal. Of the two, de Waal is the author I would most trust to get this topic correct.

~ Virginia Morell, a contributor to National Geographic, Science, and Smithsonian, is the author of the books Ancestral Passions: The Leakey Family and the Quest for Humankind's Beginnings (1996) and Blue Nile: Ethiopia's River of Magic and Mystery (2002). Her most recent book is Animal Wise: The Thoughts and Emotions of Our Fellow Creatures (2013). She blogs at Animal Wise at Psychology Today.

Mournful Creatures


Virginia Morell | Lapham's Quarterly


Animals have a great advantage over man: they never hear the clock strike, however intelligent they may be; they die without any idea of death; they have no theologians to instruct them…Their last moments are not disturbed by unwelcome and often objectionable ceremonies; it costs them nothing to be buried; no one starts lawsuits over their wills. — Voltaire

Who can say what cows feel, when they surround and stare intently on a dying or dead companion? — Charles Darwin

It is often said that our understanding and knowledge of death separates the human animal from all other animals. We alone know that we will die—that one day, suddenly or slowly, our life, our loves, our dreams will end. Surely this awareness sets us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom, we say, pointing to some of our greatest art, music, and literature—all inspired by what we know: that death awaits every living being. And yet, how very odd it is that we should be the only animal to know what life ultimately has in store for us. We share biological histories and physiologies DNA, eyes, muscles, nerves, neurons, hormones—with other animals, and these may lead to similar behaviors, thought processes, and emotions—even about death.

Take the case of Thomas, a nine-year-old chimpanzee who died in 2010 at the Chimfunshi Wildlife Orphanage Trust in Zambia, home to more than one hundred chimps. Research scientists filmed the reactions of one community of forty-three chimpanzees to Thomas’ corpse; thirty-eight of them gathered around and stayed by his side for almost twenty minutes. During that time, some of the chimps gently touched his body, smelled and studied him closely. One of those visitors was Masya, a mother carrying her dead infant (at the time, there was an outbreak of a respiratory illness among the chimps). A few days earlier, Masya had been seen placing her dead child in a grassy, sunlit patch and retreating to the shade, where she sat watching, her eyes rarely straying from her infant. Every few minutes, she strode back to the clearing to inspect her baby’s body. At times she did so hurriedly, jumping up and rushing forward as if she thought she’d detected a stirring. She studied her child’s face intently, peered into her gaping mouth and wide eyes, and brushed away the flies. Finally, she placed her knuckles softly against her infant’s neck—hoping, it seems, for any sign of life.

The chimpanzees gathered at Thomas’ side also appeared to be trying to come to grips with what had happened. One female smacked his body, hard—while the others paid close attention, looking, perhaps, for a reaction. Their faces were serious, their manner subdued. One adult male appeared even more distraught than the others; the researchers say this chimp had cared for Thomas for over four years and “had a very strong social relationship” with the dead chimp. He left and returned several times to view the body, as if unable to believe what he was seeing. Finally, he stepped between the others to get as close as possible. He scrutinized the body and erupted in frantic screams while walking rapidly over the cadaver.

Was this a chimpanzee wail of grief? Had the male friend and other chimpanzees come together to mourn Thomas? The scientists who recorded these events prefer not to use such words. Yet the chimpanzees’ behaviors—which mirror many of our own when we lose a loved one—suggest that, like us, they have trouble accepting death when it comes to one of their own. As with most emotions in animals, we do not yet understand their reactions with total clarity—but, as Charles Darwin wisely observed, they may very well have meaning. Perhaps we are the only animals with foreknowledge of death, but when it comes to grieving, we are not so unique.

The study of animal grief is a young field, largely because studies of any animal behaviors that one might think of as “human” were ignored for much of the twentieth century. It was commonly held that nonhuman animals were only reactive beings, lacking thoughts and emotions, and responding to stimuli as unthinking, unfeeling robots. Scientists were cautioned about being anthropomorphic, that is, regarding animals as they are often depicted in naive films and storybooks—as if they were people dressed up in fur or feathers. Researchers who thought they detected animal emotions—especially those that we think of as uniquely human, such as love, joy, or grief—were considered to be sentimentalists. And their reports (such as Darwin’s about the grieving cows) were dismissed as anecdotal.

In the last few decades, though, wildlife biologists have amassed so many firsthand accounts of animals caring for and mourning their dead that the idea of animal grief is no longer as suspect as it once was. Two recent books, both published in March of this year, explore the subject. How Animals Grieve, by anthropologist Barbara J. King, collects anecdotal and scientific data on grief in many kinds of animals, even some that most researchers ignore, such as rabbits, goats, and turtles. In The Bonobo and the Atheist: In Search of Humanism Among the Primates, primatologist Frans de Waal examines the biological roots of religion and morality. Since our awareness of death is often cited as the reason we developed religion, de Waal investigates whether other animals have a similar sense of their ultimate end. While King doubts that even our close chimpanzee relatives are “aware that death is coming,” de Waal suggests that older apes or elephants may have experienced enough of life to comprehend that they, too, will die. “When an old ape notices that trees are harder and harder to get into or an elephant has ever more trouble keeping up with the herd, might these individuals not apply what they have learned about life and death to their own bodies?” de Waal asks. “It’s hard to know, yet impossible to rule out.”

Scientists grappling with animal grief must find some way of framing their questions into hypotheses they can test. So far, none of them have figured out how to set up an experiment to address de Waal’s question. But they are getting closer to answering what once seemed an equally daunting problem: why do animals grieve? As King points out in her book, there are enough examples of grief in species as varied as goats, baboons, and gorillas that the emotion may be an experience shared by many species. If so, then it must have an evolutionary history and confer some benefit—that is, it must be advantageous in some way, enabling the mourner to survive long enough to reproduce and pass his or her genes to the next generation. Otherwise, natural selection would have weeded out grief long ago.

From a study of twenty-two wild-baboon females who had lost either an infant or other close relative to a predator, scientists know that the animals’ stress hormones flare for four weeks after the attack. They typically act in a “bereaved” manner, too, the researchers say, sitting apart from other baboons and not seeking out grooming (a behavior that has both social and hygienic benefits). In time, the baboons’ stress hormones subside, and they again spend time with their fellows. At first glance, it would seem that grieving would leave baboons—or other mourning animals—at great risk of either falling ill or being taken by a predator themselves. But another study, by neuroscientists Karen Wager-Smith and Athina Markou, which King discusses at length, suggests that the mourning period is actually a neurobiological necessity, particularly for any animal that forms close bonds with another individual. The researchers note that stress can inflict “microdamage” in key areas of the brain, such as the hippocampus and prefrontal cortex, both of which are concerned with memory, emotions, personality, and planning. But the brain is not a static organ; it responds dynamically to life’s events by pruning away neurons that are no longer needed and sprouting new ones. Rewiring takes time and energy, and so a period of mourning—of sleeping longer, minimizing social contact, eating less—can ultimately prove beneficial. And, indeed, all of the baboons eventually recovered from their grief, made new friends, or gave birth to new children. Grief for them can have an “adaptive value,” as evolutionary biologists are fond of saying; it enables an animal to recover from what is essentially minor brain trauma and carry on with the purpose of life—reproducing.

But discerning whatever adaptive value or evolutionary benefit grief might confer doesn’t answer another important question: how do animals experience grief? Is it at all like the sorrow we feel when a loved one dies? Can it be so all-consuming that one never recovers?

Apparently so. How else to explain the behavior of Flint, a male chimpanzee whom Jane Goodall observed at Gombe Stream National Park in Tanzania for the eight and a half years of his short life. Flint could not express in words what he felt about his mother’s death, but no one could misinterpret his actions. Flint’s mother, Flo, was in her early forties when she gave birth to her son. That’s close to old age for chimpanzees, and it may explain why Flo wasn’t the strict mother she’d been to her younger children. For whatever reason, she let Flint do whatever he pleased, nursing at her breast long past the age (four or so) when he should have been weaned, and riding on his old mother’s back until he was eight, an age when he should have been walking everywhere on his own. The pair was inseparable, and then Flo died.

“It seemed,” Goodall wrote in Through a Window, a memoir of her thirty years of chimpanzee research at Gombe, “that [Flint] had no will to survive without her Never shall I forget watching as, three days after Flo’s death, Flint climbed slowly into a tall tree near the stream [where she had died]. He walked along one of the branches, then stopped and stood motionless, staring down at an empty nest. After about two minutes he turned away and, with the movements of an old man, climbed down, walked a few steps, then lay, wide eyes staring ahead. The nest was one which he and Flo had shared a short while before Flo died.”

Flint never recovered from his loss. He grew lethargic, refused food that the researchers set out for him, and fell sick. The last time Goodall saw him alive, he was “hollow-eyed, gaunt, and utterly depressed, huddled in the vegetation close to where Flo had died…The last short journey he made, pausing to rest every few feet, was to the very place where Flo’s body had lain. There he stayed for several hours, sometimes staring and staring into the water. He struggled on a little farther, then curled up—and never moved again.”

Flint’s response was entirely maladaptive. It did not help one whit in terms of fitness; he never reproduced, his genes were not passed to the next generation. So profound was Flint’s love for his mother and his sorrow at her death that he simply gave up the will to live.
Read the whole captivating and lengthy article.

Sunday, March 31, 2013

Poem - A.R. Ammons: Easter Morning


Easter Morning

by A. R. Ammons


I have a life that did not become,
that turned aside and stopped,
astonished:
I hold it in me like a pregnancy or
as on my lap a child
not to grow old but dwell on

it is to his grave I most
frequently return and return
to ask what is wrong, what was
wrong, to see it all by
the light of a different necessity
but the grave will not heal
and the child,
stirring, must share my grave
with me, an old man having
gotten by on what was left

when I go back to my home country in these
fresh far-away days, it’s convenient to visit
everybody, aunts and uncles, those who used to say,
look how he’s shooting up, and the
trinket aunts who always had a little
something in their pocketbooks, cinnamon bark
or a penny or nickel, and uncles who
were the rumored fathers of cousins
who whispered of them as of great, if
troubled, presences, and school

teachers, just about everybody older
(and some younger) collected in one place
waiting, particularly, but not for
me, mother and father there, too, and others
close, close as burrowing
under skin, all in the graveyard
assembled, done for, the world they
used to wield, have trouble and joy
in, gone

the child in me that could not become
was not ready for others to go,
to go on into change, blessings and
horrors, but stands there by the road
where the mishap occurred, crying out for
help, come and fix this or we
can’t get by, but the great ones who
were to return, they could not or did
not hear and went on in a flurry and
now, I say in the graveyard, here
lies the flurry, now it can’t come
back with help or helpful asides, now
we all buy the bitter
incompletions, pick up the knots of
horror, silently raving, and go on
crashing into empty ends not
completions, not rondures the fullness
has come into and spent itself from

I stand on the stump
of a child, whether myself
or my little brother who died, and
yell as far as I can, I cannot leave this place,
for me it is the dearest and the worst,
it is life nearest to life which is
life lost: it is my place where
I must stand and fail,
calling attention with tears
to the branches not lofting
boughs into space, to the barren
air that holds the world that was my world

though the incompletions
(& completions) burn out
standing in the flash high-burn
momentary structure of ash, still it
is a picture-book, letter-perfect
Easter morning: I have been for a
walk: the wind is tranquil: the brook
works without flashing in an abundant
tranquility: the birds are lively with
voice: I saw something I had
never seen before: two great birds,
maybe eagles, blackwinged, whitenecked
and –headed, came from the south oaring
the great wings steadily; they went
directly over me, high up, and kept on
due north: but then one bird,
the one behind, veered a little to the
left and the other bird kept on seeming
not to notice for a minute: the first
began to circle as if looking for
something, coasting, resting its wings
on the down side of some of the circles:
the other bird came back and they both
circled, looking perhaps for a draft;
they turned a few more times, possibly
rising—at least, clearly resting—
then flew on falling into distance till
they broke across the local bush and
trees: it was a sight of bountiful
majesty and integrity: the having
patterns and routes, breaking
from them to explore other patterns or
better ways to routes, and then the
return: a dance sacred as the sap in
the trees, permanent in its descriptions
as the ripples round the brook’s
ripplestone: fresh as this particular
flood of burn breaking across us now
from the sun.

Monday, September 19, 2011

Shrink Rap Radio #279 – Grief, Ritual, and The Soul of the World with Francis Weller


Francis Weller practices something he calls Soul Psychology - sounds like spiritually based therapy, sort of, but he seems to also be skirting the realm of "parts work" and subpersonalities (which some local native healers see as another form of Soul Retrieval). He is the author of Entering The Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and The Soul of the World.

Shrink Rap Radio #279 – Grief, Ritual, and The Soul of The World with Francis Weller, M.A.




Francis Weller, M.A., MFT is a psychotherapist and author of the 2011 book, Entering The Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and The Soul of the World. He has been in private practice since 1983. During that time, he developed a style of working with people called Soul-Centered Psychotherapy. Weller says his approach to working with the wounds and challenges we face restores soul as the primary focus. He says he has come to have a deep faith in the way soul/psyche works, its moods and movements, how it speaks through symptoms and images, how it longs for intimacy with the world and its need for beauty. I see this every day in my work with people.


Weller says, we often struggle with the muscular demands of our culture to measure up, perform and be perfect. This leaves little room for those parts of us that do not match these expectations; the vulnerable, weak, inadequate and grieving parts of soul. And yet, it is precisely these parts of who we are that bring us closer to others, to the vitality of life and the world. Bringing these rejected and denied elements of soul-life, “those places where I said no to my life,” back into our daily rhythms is what adds meaning and depth to our days.



Francis weller reports he has worked with many concerns in his practice. He specializes in grief work, shame, addiction, depression, and men’s issues. He works with individuals and couples and he offers groups periodically.
A psychology podcast by David Van Nuys, Ph.D.





Sunday, September 18, 2011

Roshi Joan Halifax - Zen Brain: Exploring The Connection Between Neuroscience And Meditation


Roshi Joan Halifax and the Upaya Zen Center hosted another great series of lectures in the Zen Brain series. As always, a nice collection of experts - Al Kaszniak, George Chrousos, Joan Halifax, George Bonanno, and Philippe Goldin - was assembled to explore the intersection of Zen and neuroscience.

Roshi Joan posted the following article in Huffington Post to summarize the event - and announce the next one in January, 2012.

Zen Brain: Exploring The Connection Between Neuroscience And Meditation

- Abbot, Upaya Zen Center

This past August, more than 50 people gathered in the Circle of the Way temple at Upaya Zen Center in Santa Fe, New Mexico, to explore the connection between neuroscience and meditation. This is the fourth year we have done so.

Why? This is a Zen center that is inspired by the example set by His Holiness the Dalai Lama, who nearly 30 years ago began a dialogue with Dr. Francisco Varela and myself that was to eventually become embodied in the Mind & Life Institute, an organization that supports and sustains dialogue and rigorous scientific inquiry into meditative states.

Over the years His Holiness has enjoyed relationships with many scientists, including Varela, Sir Karl Popper, and David Bohm. His Holiness said:
With the ever growing impact of science on our lives, religion and spirituality have a greater role to play reminding us of our humanity. There is no contradiction between the two. Each gives us valuable insights into the other. Both science and the teachings of the Buddha tell us of the fundamental unity of all things.
Upaya Zen Center continues this deep inquiry into science and Buddhism through the vehicle of the Zen Brain retreats, as well as other programs. Those who are enrolled in Upaya's Contemplative End-of-Life Care training (for medical professionals) and the Buddhist Chaplaincy Program develop a thorough grounding in the latest findings on neuroscience and meditation as they go about their work in the world.

In the Zen Brain retreats, prominent scientists and Zen practitioners explore Buddhist, neuro-scientific and clinical science perspectives on topics like altruism, compassion and consciousness. Lectures and discussions with participants are embedded within zazen (meditation) practice throughout each day.

The most recent Zen Brain program this August explored trauma, stress, loss and the human potential for resilience and happiness. The faculty, drawn from the most accomplished clinicians and researchers studying this topic, featured Al Kaszniak, Ph.D., George Chrousos, M.D., George A. Bonanno, Ph.D. and Philippe Goldin, Ph.D. I also had the privilege of participating with these scientists as a contemplative and someone who has worked in this field for many years.
Read the whole post.

Here is the first podcast from the series - I will offer links to the others.

Al Kaszniak & George Chrousos & Joan Halifax & George Bonanno & Philippe Goldin: 8-25-2011: Zen Brain: Trauma, Stress, Loss, and Happiness (Part 1)

Recorded: Thursday Aug 25, 2011

Buddhism is a path to liberation from suffering, and among the most pervasive universal triggers of suffering are trauma, stress, and loss, including bereavement. Fundamental to Buddhist teaching, and the path of Zen, is the recognition that freedom from suffering can be found through practice realization of the fundamental nature of the mental continuum as ever-changing, interdependent, and without any fixed, unchanging self at its core.

Recently, scientific studies of human resilience following trauma and loss, response to stressful events, and the consequences of meditation training have begun to provide third-person evidence that converges with the first-person experience of Zen practice.

In this retreat, prominent scientists and Zen practitioners will explore Buddhist, neuroscientific, and clinical science perspectives on trauma, stress, loss, and the human potential for resilience and happiness. Talks, discussions, and explorations with participants are embedded within Zazen practice throughout each day.

Here are the other links:

 

Friday, September 02, 2011

Upaya Dharma Podcasts - Al Kaszniak & George Chrousos & Joan Halifax & George Bonanno & Philippe Goldin: 8-25-2011: Zen Brain: Trauma, Stress, Loss, and Happiness (Part 1)



Excellent, a new series of Zen Brain talks from Joan Halifax and a host of experts (Al Kaszniak, George Chrousos, George Bonanno, and Philippe Goldin). These talks are always enlightening and entertaining.

Al Kaszniak; George Chrousos; Joan Halifax; George Bonanno; Philippe Goldin: 8-25-2011: Zen Brain: Trauma, Stress, Loss, and Happiness (Part 1)

Speakers: Al Kaszniak & George Chrousos & Joan Halifax & George Bonanno & Philippe Goldin

Recorded: Thursday Aug 25, 2011

Buddhism is a path to liberation from suffering, and among the most pervasive universal triggers of suffering are trauma, stress, and loss, including bereavement. Fundamental to Buddhist teaching, and the path of Zen, is the recognition that freedom from suffering can be found through practice realization of the fundamental nature of the mental continuum as ever-changing, interdependent, and without any fixed, unchanging self at its core.

Recently, scientific studies of human resilience following trauma and loss, response to stressful events, and the consequences of meditation training have begun to provide third-person evidence that converges with the first-person experience of Zen practice.

In this retreat, prominent scientists and Zen practitioners will explore Buddhist, neuroscientific, and clinical science perspectives on trauma, stress, loss, and the human potential for resilience and happiness. Talks, discussions, and explorations with participants are embedded within Zazen practice throughout each day.

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Thursday, January 13, 2011

Tucson Recovers - Upcoming Events

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As Tucson and its people begin to recover from last week's tragic events, the community is coming together in various events - I will post some of them as I become aware of them - if you know of events that I have missed, please drop me a note.

There are still people gathering and leaving candles, prayers, pictures, offerings and tears at University Medical Center and at Gabriel Giffords' office. The above picture is from UMC.

In an effort to avoid negative impact on private funerals, the Tucson Memorial Project and Wingspan (the LGBT support and community group) have organized this first event - today at 12-2 pm.
Peace and Solidarity Gathering

If you don't want to fight traffic, parking, shuttles, and deal with crowds, there is an alternative venue that is gathering. We highly encourage that everyone considers attending alternate venues to alleviate the impact of the funeral on the community, area businesses, and residences. See below for more information. Thank you, and please spread the word.

Time: Thursday, January 13 · 12:00pm - 2:00pm
Location: Demeester Band Shell - Reid Park, Country Club and 22nd St.
Tucson, AZ

Created By: Wingspan

More Info: In collaboration with the "Angel Project," Wingspan AVP has organized a peace and solidarity gathering for community members to come together and promote non-violence and healing.

Please join friends and neighbors as we challenge acts of violence with kindness and community.

Bring messages of hope and well wishes to the families of those affected by this week's tragedy.

Gain strength and mend hearts through kinship.

If you are interested in helping with the event as a peacekeeper, please contact Oscar Jimenez at ojimenez@wingspan.org
For the Buddhist community here (and anyone else who like to attend), which is quite large and diverse, the Tucson Shambhala Meditation Group is offering a tonglen and loving-kindness event on Saturday.
Tonglen & Loving-Kindness Practice Opportunity For Sangha and Friends



When: Saturday, January 15, 2011 at 10:00 A.M.


Tucson Shambhala Meditation Group would like to invite everyone who is interested to gather at the Center this coming Saturday at 10:00 a.m. for the opportunity to practice tonglen and loving-kindness together for all those people involved with and connected to this week's sad events in our city.

There will also be a chance to practice tonglen on Sunday at the regular 9:00 a.m. practice period, which will be followed at 10:00 a.m. by a Community Meeting as previously announced.

Tucson Shambhala Meditation Group
3250 N. Tucson Blvd.
Tucson, AZ 85716