Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Daily Om: Being Gentle With Ourselves

Today's Daily Om is an excellent reminder to be compassionate with ourselves when experiencing change (or any other time for that matter). When I was in therapy a while back, this was one of the things Maude kept drilling into my head. But my head is very impenetrable sometimes. It has taken me several years, and a whole mess of Pema Chodron books, to finally get it -- and I still struggle with it many days.

Having a perfectionist subpersonality makes me great at my job, and a decent writer, but it can play hell on my inner life. This sub always demands that everything be done right, and when it teams up with the pusher, it demands it be done right, NOW.

But when I (we) am experiencing growth and change, that doesn't work out so well. I (we) need to be able to relax into the change, and be gentle with myself when I am not fully in control. Tough to do for many of us.

Create Time For Self-Compassion
Being Gentle With Ourselves

During those times when our lives are filled with what seems to be constant change and growth, it is important to remember that we need to be gentle with ourselves. Since it can be easy to use our energy to keep up with the momentum of our lives, we may not be aware of the fact that we are much more likely to run ourselves down. When things seem to be moving quickly, it is especially essential that we make a point to slow down and be gentle with ourselves.

It might be difficult to notice what is happening to us for we may be so caught up in the whirlwind of our lives that we lose sight of the direction in which things are heading. Being gentle with ourselves doesn’t mean that we don’t accomplish things. Instead it means that we honor ourselves on an ongoing basis and take care of the needs of our bodies.

This means different things to different people. For instance, it could mean having a session with a healer; taking a remedy, herbs, or vitamins; or getting extra sleep. Putting our energy into ourselves in this way helps create space for a more positive, loving, and accepting view of our lives. By setting the intention to do so, we will be more cognizant of our energy levels on a daily basis and more able to replenish them as needed.

The more we are able to treat our bodies with gentleness, the more tenderness and compassion we will call forth into our lives. Learning to understand and pay attention to what our self needs will in turn allow us to fill our lives with unlimited loving and healing energy and to truly take care of the things that mean the most to us.

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