Monday, June 18, 2007

Daily Om: Where The Soul Is

A good Daily Om today -- I have something to say about this below.

Where The Soul Is
Finding The Place You Belong

There will likely be times in your life when your soul evolves more quickly than your circumstances. Your subconscious mind may be ready to move forward long before you recognize that you are destined to embrace a new way of life. Your soul intuitively understands that changing habitats can be a vital part of the growth process and that there may be one part of you that is eager to move to another home, another state, or another plane of existence. But the ties that bind you to your current mode of being can make moving into this next stage of your life more challenging than it has to be. If you find it difficult to move on, consider that just as people in your life may come and go, your role in others’ lives may also be temporary. And many of the conditions that at first seemed favorable served you for a short time. When you are ready to match your situation to your soul, you will find that you feel a new sense of harmony and increasingly connected to the ebb and flow of the universe.

Moving on can be defined in numerous ways. Your forward momentum may take you from your current locale to a place you instinctively know will be more nurturing, comfortable, and spiritually enriching. Once you arrive, your misgivings will vanish, and you will know that you have found a sanctuary. Similarly, subtle changes in your values, goals, or emotional needs can motivate you to distance yourself from one group of people in order to reassociate yourself with individuals that are better able to support you. For example, this could mean moving away from your birth family in order to find your energetic or spiritual family. The route you need to travel may not always be clear; you may feel inspired to change yet be unsure as to why or how. Clarity may come in the form of a question if you are willing to seriously ask yourself where your soul is trying to take you.

In a way, moving from one point to another when you feel strongly driven to do so is a way of bringing your spiritual and earthly energies together. It is a two-step process that involves not only letting go but also reconnecting. You will know you have found your destination, physical or otherwise, when you feel in your heart that you have been reborn into a life that is just the right shape, size, and composition.

Someone I care about left an unhealthy relationship a few months ago. She knew it was the right thing to do at the time, and still does I suspect. In the context of the post above, she was being called by her soul to enter into a new stage of her life -- a healthier and happier stage.

Recently, however, she is thinking of returning to that relationship. She feels pulled back by the negative bonding patterns they shared -- the safety of knowing exactly what to expect, even if it is misery. Her soul is still calling to her, but the fear of change and the unknown has her by the throat and won't let go. She knows, in her head and her heart, that going back is not healthy -- but the fear of the unknown keeps her from listening to her soul.

All change is fraught with fear and anxiety -- at least for most of us. We like stability and the safety of the known. Launching ourselves into the unknown can be horrifying at times. But if we follow our inner promptings, they will lead us to a better place. But we have to be willing to move through the discomfort that comes with change.

Again, using the language of the text above, my friend's soul has evolved beyond her current life conditions. The only way to feed her soul is to change her life conditions -- the relationship she left has served its purpose in her life and no longer satisfies her soul.

When Kira left me last summer, it was the same situation in some ways. Our relationship was no longer meeting the deeper needs of either of us -- she saw it first (or accepted it first) and ended the relationship. It's never easy to do such a thing, but she made the right decision and followed through with it. Her soul was calling her to something different -- and so was mine. Except I wasn't listening.

When I moved down here from Seattle to be with Kira, my soul was demanding a change. I was in a rut up there and felt lost. My relationship with Kira served many needs for both of us, and we each learned a lot and healed a lot in the time we spent together. But eventually, the relationship had filled its role in our lives and it was time to move on. Strangely, when we were first getting together we had talked about it not being a permanent thing, but we tried to make it permanent, which went against the nature of the relationship.

This isn't always the case in relationships, obviously, or people wouldn't spend their lives together. Some people are perfectly compatible and spend happy lives together.

The important thing, however, is that we listen to the inner voice of our soul, look for its subtle promptings. If we fail to do so, it won't go away -- it will find other, more drastic ways of getting our attention: depression, illness, anxiety, or worse. A lot of bodily illnesses have emotional components -- one sure way to end up with one is to ignore what we really need in life to be happy and healthy.


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