Friday, August 15, 2008

Life Optimizer - How Personal Growth Can Uncover a Toxic Relationship

JoLynn Braley, guest-posting at Life Optimizer, recently posted a nice article on how individual personal growth can reveal to us that we are in an unhealthy ("toxic") relationship.

How Personal Growth Can Uncover a Toxic Relationship

By Donald Latumahina, August 13, 2008

Note: This is a guest post by JoLynn Braley from The Fit Shack

The human potential is limitless and when you consciously choose to work on your personal growth you will not only improve your life but also benefit the entire world. Every bit you do to raise your own consciousness contributes to the level of global consciousness.

Personal Growth Can Uncover Toxic RelationshipWhen you look at your personal growth path like this you might not think that your self-improvement could result in uncovering some unwelcome issues in your life, however this can and does occur for many people.

One result of improving yourself is that you will begin to see your relationships with new eyes. Either you will come to appreciate the people in your life even more than you used to because you will see how truly loving and supportive they are, or you will wake up and see that you have some people in your life who do not have your highest good in mind.

Uncovering a Toxic Relationship

Let’s take a common area of personal growth, a place where many begin their path to improvement: the physical self. I’m a strong believer that if you truly desire to ascend the scale of consciousness that the overall health of your physical being plays a large role in this, so the physical is a great place to start your personal growth process.

Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at things!), beginning a weight loss and fitness regime can quickly uncover a toxic relationship if you weren’t already aware that you were in one. And even though we’re talking about building a healthy lifestyle in order to gain fitness in body, mind, and spirit, even people who are solely focused on weight loss to improve their looks can uncover toxic relationships.

Go read the whole article. She includes some examples and good advice.

In my own experience, a healthy relationship puts each person's psychological, emotional, and spiritual health as the priority in the relationship. Sometimes, that means the relationship is given up on behalf of being healthy or loving our partners enough that we want them to be healthy. It's a tough thing to do, but it's "true" compassion.


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