Relationship Tips - Two Articles

Found these two collections of relationship tips over the last couple of days - thought I'd share them. Most of us can use ways to keep the love alive, or even deepen it.

Give Positive Energy to Your Relationship – 10 Mantras For Happy Married Life or Relationship

Posted by Naresh in Sunday, July 19th 2009

The first question that might come to one’s mind is why do we need to give positive energy to a relationship? The answer is to ensure the longevity of the relationship with sweetness intact forever.

As the relationship progresses and initial euphoria settles there is a build up of negative energy in that relationship due to the mind’s tricks. This heap of negative energy needs to be reduced, else it will result in the bitterness and end of romance in the relationship.

Few ideas which worked for me:

1. Using Existing Positive Energy: Realize and periodically remind yourself the positive aspects of your relationship and your partner. You need to do this activity after few days, because the impact of this activity decreases with time.

2. Unique Understanding #1: Understand that you two are two different persons raised under different circumstances. You have different choices and behaviors. You have different preferences and you react to same events differently. In case any of you tries to change it, this will mean you no longer want to live with the person you loved so much at a time.

3. Unique Understanding #2. All of the relationship problems manifest from the mind’s tricks. Mind uses tricks like ego, distrust, hatred, resentment etc to accomplish its activity. You may as the question - why can’t it use positive tools like love and joy to benefit relationship? The answer is it uses positive tools as well. The mind fluctuates between negatives and positives. That is why most of the relationships are just oscillations between love and hate.

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Emotional Fitness

Harness the power of emotion to deepen your love with your partner, become more successful at work, and more.

by Dr. Barton Goldsmith

10 New (and Potentially Bold) Ways to Be Romantic

Ten new things you can do to enhance your connection.

Ten New (and Potentially Bold) Ways to Be Romantic

Much of what life and love have to offer may be old hat to you and your love. Here are some new things you can do to enhance your connection while having fun.

1. Mirror exercises. Stand side by side and look into the mirror and simultaneously into each other’s eyes. Mirrors increase light by about 30 percent, so you will see deeper into the soul of the one you love.
2. Backwards hug. Stand back to back and hold hands. Feel your partner from this new perspective. Talk about what sensations you have and what emotions come up as you get to know another side of your partner.
3. Alien lover. Pretend that your partner is from another planet and doesn’t understand anything about life and love on planet Earth, and it is your job to teach her or him. You cannot speak; only gestures and looks are allowed.

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