Monday, January 14, 2008

9 Great Ways to Make Yourself Absolutely Miserable

So many self-help blogs and productivity sites post on ways to make your life better in some way, or how to increase efficiency, and so on. But sometime we can learn more by seeing the ways we can f*ck up our lives.

On that note, here is a great entry from The Positivity Blog:

9 Great Ways to Make Yourself Absolutely Miserable

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice”
Wayne Dyer

I think that becoming a happier person is not so much about changing external circumstances as it is about changing your thinking.

You can pile up tons of positive external stuff in your life but if your internals are messed up then your life won’t become that much better.

And the thing is that if you get your thoughts into the right place then your outer world will start to align to those thoughts.

Now, there are quite a few ways to make yourself miserable. Here are 9 of them that I believe are some of the most popular. I have used them time and time again. I still do from time to time.

I’d recommend decreasing these thought habits as much as possible. Ditching them all together might be hard. But over time you can cut down on them significantly.

To remind yourself of them you may want to print out this article or write down a few of these ways that you feel especially apply to you.

You can use those notes as external reminders for the fridge or your bathroom mirror.

1. Compare everything you do to the lives and accomplishments of other people.

2. Go along with everyone else tells you. And try to please everyone.

3. Live in a sea of negative voices.

4. Never mix things up or try something new.

5. Spend too much of your time in the past and/or the future.

6. Focus on what you don’t want.

7. Spend your time looking for magic pills.

8. Always be looking for and relying on external validation.

9. Take things too seriously.

For a more in-depth explanation of each of these points, check out the original post.

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