Sunday, June 04, 2006

Gratitude


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I am grateful for Sundays, the only truly relaxing day of the week for me. The best part is that I get to spend Sundays with Kira.

But I am also grateful for fat-free instant pistachio pudding. The green color is a little off-putting, but it's a low-calorie treat that is as healthy as a couple of glasses of milk.

And ground sirloin. Yum. The stuff is 93 percent fat-free and it tastes so superior to hamburger. It's tasty and it's healthy, what could be better?

And I'm grateful that summer is a television wasteland. No temptation to go numb watching the box. I'll get so much more reading done.

What are you grateful for?


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Low-Cost Introduction to Coaching

My partner, Kira, is currently completing a Life Coaching certification. She needs a certain number of hours of coaching to move to the next level. Although Kira is already a licensed therapist with seven years' experience working with people, the coaching program requires additional hours. In order to obtain the hours she needs, she is offering a special 5-session package for $100, which is quite an outstanding deal.

If you want to work on issues of intimacy, creativity, autonomy, personal boundaries, weight and body image, or anything else that might make you happier, healthier, and more whole, contact Kira and get an introductory session at no cost.


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Issue #2 of Integral Review Now Available

The second issue of Integral Review is now available. They claim to be a twice annual publication, but the first issue was last spring, so it's looking more like a once yearly.

One piece of good news from the editor's comments is the soon to be published AQAL: Journal of Integral Theory and Practice, the new journal from the Integral Institute/Integral University folks. I look forward to seeing what they have to offer. It appears from the editorial comments that they have some differences of opinion, so it'll be interesting see what AQAL looks like in terms of content.

I admire their mission with the Integral Review, but for me -- and I can't believe I'm saying this -- it's too academic and dry. It's a peer-reviewed publication, which means academics writing for academics. In general, this is not a bad thing as it will certainly produce some deeper thinking among integral theorists. But academic writing is so dry that the desert outside my window feels succulent in comparison.

Anyway, check it out. Maybe it's just me who feels put off by the writing.


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Western Mondo


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This mondo is from my Zen page-a-day calendar.
"Who is there?" asks God.
"It is I."
"Go away," says God.

Later . . .

"Who is there?" asks God.
"It is thou."
"Enter," replies God.


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Morning Wisdom: Compassion


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What is compassion? It is not simply a sense of sympathy or caring for the person suffering, not simply a warmth of heart toward the person before you, or a sharp clarity of recognition of their needs and pain, it is also a sustained and practical determination to do whatever is possible and necessary to help alleviate their suffering.

~ Sogyal Rinpoche

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Sunday Poet: Langston Hughes

Okay, I give up. I tried to post some poems by Hughes, but Blogger can't handle the formatting, and I don't know enough HTML to make it work. So here is some info on Hughes, and at the bottom are a whole bunch of good links for you to go read some poems. Sorry.

Langston Hughes is probably one of the most popular poets on the internet. He is the most searched for poet at the Academy of American Poets and he tops the list of popular poets at Famous Poets and Poems. Why is he so popular? Is it the jazz and blues inspired rhythm and imagery in many of his poems? Is it the honest depiction of the "negro" experience in the early 20th century? Is it the leftist politics and anti-segregation views that marked so much of his later verse? I don't have the answer, but I suspect all of these things have kept his work alive and kept it in the hands and hearts of readers.

Here is some biography from the Academy of American Poets:

James Langston Hughes was born February 1, 1902, in Joplin, Missouri. His parents divorced when he was a small child, and his father moved to Mexico. He was raised by his grandmother until he was thirteen, when he moved to Lincoln, Illinois, to live with his mother and her husband, before the family eventually settled in Cleveland, Ohio. It was in Lincoln, Illinois, that Hughes began writing poetry. Following graduation, he spent a year in Mexico and a year at Columbia University. During these years, he held odd jobs as an assistant cook, launderer, and a busboy, and travelled to Africa and Europe working as a seaman. In November 1924, he moved to Washington, D.C. Hughes's first book of poetry, The Weary Blues, was published by Alfred A. Knopf in 1926. He finished his college education at Lincoln University in Pennsylvania three years later. In 1930 his first novel, Not Without Laughter, won the Harmon gold medal for literature.

Hughes, who claimed Paul Lawrence Dunbar, Carl Sandburg, and Walt Whitman as his primary influences, is particularly known for his insightful, colorful portrayals of black life in America from the twenties through the sixties. He wrote novels, short stories and plays, as well as poetry, and is also known for his engagement with the world of jazz and the influence it had on his writing, as in "Montage of a Dream Deferred." His life and work were enormously important in shaping the artistic contributions of the Harlem Renaissance of the 1920s. Unlike other notable black poets of the period—Claude McKay, Jean Toomer, and Countee Cullen—Hughes refused to differentiate between his personal experience and the common experience of black America. He wanted to tell the stories of his people in ways that reflected their actual culture, including both their suffering and their love of music, laughter, and language itself.

Langston Hughes died of complications from prostate cancer in May 22, 1967, in New York. In his memory, his residence at 20 East 127th Street in Harlem, New York City, has been given landmark status by the New York City Preservation Commission, and East 127th Street has been renamed "Langston Hughes Place."

I didn't get to read much of Hughes in college, although one of my American lit classes did have a short section, maybe two days, on Harlem Renaissance poetry. We read some Hughes, Countee Cullen, Paul Laurence Dunbar, Jean Toomer, and Arna Bontemps. We followed that with some work by Gwendolyn Brooks, Amiri Baraka, Etheridge Knight, and Ishmael Reed. Later on, in my own reading, I discovered Jayne Cortez, Nikki Giovanni, and Ntozake Shange.

People of color -- any color -- are still highly under-represented in the poetry market, which tends to favor academics with access to the lit mags and publishers. These folks tend to be white. However, some of the most vital poetry in the country is being read at poetry slams, which reached their greatest popularity in the late 1990s as a result of some MTV coverage, but are still happening with ever greater prize money. Hip-hop and rap influenced poetry does well in the slam environment, which is as much about presentation and performance as it is about literary forms. Langston Hughes would have rocked the slam world.

Langston Hughes on the web:
Modern American Poetry: Great collection of criticism, explication, and writings about Hughes.
Academy of American Poets: Biography, poems, and links.
Famous Poems and Poets: 29 poems.
Perspectives in American Literature: Great bibliography of Hughes' works.
Voices and Visions: Some good links.
PoemHunter: 47 poems.


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Saturday, June 03, 2006

Gratitude


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I didn't do a Tarot post today -- didn't have the focus for a major intellectual post. The cool part is that I don't feel guilty for not doing it, which is rare for me. I have a subpersonality that pushes me to be responsible and to get things done. Its voice tried to tell me that some people expect a weekly Tarot post and if I don't do it, I'll be letting them down. My observer didn't let voice run the show this time. I am grateful that I am learning to distinguish between what I want to do and what my subs try to tell me I need to do.

I am grateful that Kira and I had a fight tonight and didn't bail out on each other. Our old pattern would have been to retreat into isolation and then stay distant for a while, until things cool off. This time we hung in with the feelings and followed them to a place where they were less intense. It still sucks to fight, but that was much better than our old patterns.

I am grateful for naps. I have no idea what the hell I was thinking as a kid when I hated naps. Silly child was I.

Finally, I am grateful that Pema Chodron's words have taken up residence in my head. They come in handy sometimes.

What are you grateful for?


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Exercise: Working with Attachment


[This is cross-posted at the Integral Relationship pod at Zaadz.]

Is it possible to love our partners without being attached to a certain view of who they are? Is it possible to reclaim the projections with which we have imbued our partners?

The following is an exercise adapted from a traditional Buddhist meditation on working with attachment to a person. Those who are currently single can explore the same sense of attachment by substituting a close friend.

ATTACHMENT TO A PERSON

- Bring to mind person you feel very attached to, a lover or good friend.
- How does it feel if you think of him or her?
- Is it a feeling of freedom or bondage to think of this person?
- Is he or she as perfect as I want to be?
- Am I sure this person will forever be a good friend/lover of mine? Am I actually such a perfect friend/lover?
- Am I attached to this human being or to a fantasy of the perfect friend/lover?
- Is this person an ordinary human being like me, with some good and some bad qualities?
- In what way is this person really different from any other, with some good and some bad qualities?
- Do I tend to exaggerate this persons good qualities, is he / she always nice, warm, friendly?
- Does exaggeration not always lead to disappointment?
- What is the essence of this person who I like? Is it the mind that I will never fully understand, or the body; a skin, holding blood, flesh and bones together?

What happens when you do this meditation? How do you feel?
Can you separate your partner (or friend) from the attachments you feel to him/her?

Film: The Great New Wonderful

I'm going to take a chance here and post about a film that has not even been reviewed yet. The fact that there's not a lot of information about this film is strange considering the names attached to it. The cast includes Tony Shalhoub, Edie Falco, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Olympia Dukakis, Will Arnett, and Stephen Colbert. The film was directed by Danny Leiner, best known for the teen-oriented comedies Dude, Where's My Car? and Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle. That doesn't bode well, but the trailer looks good (see below).

It opens June 23rd, 2006 (limited). All available details are here.

Here is the plot summary from the New York Times:
A handful of New Yorkers try to make sense of the various emotional traumas in their lives on the anniversary of the city's greatest tragedy in this episodic comedy drama. It's September 11, 2002, and Emme (Maggie Gyllenhaal) is a struggling gourmet pastry chef who is competing for an important job with Safarah Polsky (Edie Falco), an experienced veteran with many prestigious clients. Judy Hillerman (Olympia Dukakis) is an elderly woman who, after many years of marriage, is suddenly tempted to cheat on her husband for the first time. Dr. Trabulous (Tony Shalhoub) is a psychiatrist who meets every day with Sandy (Jim Gaffigan) as they try to sort out the aftermath of a brutal physical attack, though the doctor's approach seems more than a bit misguided. Avi (Naseeruddin Shah) and Satish
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Sharat Saxena) are a pair of security men hired to protect a visiting dignitary, an assignment that leaves them with very different feelings. And Allison (Judy Greer) and David (Tom McCarthy) are parents deep in denial about the myriad emotional problems confronting their ten-year-old son. The Great New Wonderful was directed by Danny Leiner, best known for the teen-oriented comedies Dude, Where's My Car? and Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle. ~ Mark Deming, All Movie Guide
Here is the trailer to the film. It's the only real sense of the movie currently available. I'll post a review as soon as I see one.




I'm hoping this will be a good movie. I don't groove with most of the Hollywood stuff, so a good summer film that might actually come to Tucson would be a good thing.

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Poem: Jack Gilbert














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The Forgotten Dialect Of The Heart

How astonishing it is that language can almost mean,
and frightening that it does not quite. Love, we say,
God, we say, Rome and Michiko, we write, and the words
get it all wrong. We say bread and it means according
to which nation. French has no word for home,
and we have no word for strict pleasure. A people
in northern India is dying out because their ancient
tongue has no words for endearment. I dream of lost
vocabularies that might express some of what
we no longer can. Maybe the Etruscan texts would
finally explain why the couples on their tombs
are smiling. And maybe not. When the thousands
of mysterious Sumerian tablets were translated,
they seemed to be business records. But what if they
are poems or psalms? My joy is the same as twelve
Ethiopian goats standing silent in the morning light.
O Lord, thou art slabs of salt and ingots of copper,
as grand as ripe barley lithe under the wind's labor.
Her breasts are six white oxen loaded with bolts
of long-fibered Egyptian cotton. My love is a hundred
pitchers of honey. Shiploads of thuya are what
my body wants to say to your body. Giraffes are this
desire in the dark. Perhaps the spiral Minoan script
is not laguage but a map. What we feel most has
no name but amber, archers, cinnamon, horses, and birds.

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Natasha Bedingfield: Unwritten

It's not too often that I think a pop song by a pretty young blonde girl is worth mentioning, but I like this song. Not so much the sound, which is standard adult alternative, but I think the lyrics actually have a good message. In pop music, that's kind of rare.

Here is a taste:

Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your innovations
Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
The message isn't anything profound, but when I'm driving in the 105 degree heat, and trying not to get angry with the woman in front of me who is talking on her cell phone and blocking any attempt to get around her, the song makes me feel better.

You can watch the video here.
You can see an in-store live performance here.
And you can read all of the lyrics here.


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Friday, June 02, 2006

Gratitude


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Some days I get to grumbling about having to work evenings and having to miss events that I would like to attend, or simply just having to be at work after 5 pm on a Friday. And then it hits me that I'm doing a job I truly love -- and that I enjoy my clients. Why would I ever grumble about that? So, today I realized just how grateful I am for my job. Again.

In addition, one of my favorite clients expressed her gratitude for the ways in which I make her life a little better that have nothing to do with training. I am so grateful to know that I make even a small difference in the lives of my clients.

Another of my other favorite clients had been away for a while, but was back today. I am grateful for that.

I guess I'm in the gratitude flow today, because there is more.

I'm grateful for the generous readers who provided me with information to help me in deciding that I will, indeed, begin the Dzogchen training program. I missed the first part of it for this year, but there might be a way to catch up. It's a six year program in total, but since my goal is not to become a teacher at this point, I'm not sure how much of it I will complete. I'm extremely grateful for the chance to do it, though.

Finally, I'm grateful for Kira. I'm always grateful for her presence in my life, and I don't say it enough. So today, I declare it publicly.

What are you grateful for?


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Masculine and Feminine Elements of the Path


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This is from "Enlightenment in Female Form," by Gehlek Rinpoche, in the summer issue of Buddhadharma.
The union of masculine and feminine energies is key to our ultimate spiritual freedom. Without the male or female aspect, there is no enlightenment: there is no union of wisdom and method; there is no union of clear light and illusion body; there is no union of mind and body.
The article is about Tara worship, which is most often limited to the Tibetan forms of Buddhist practice. The author is trying to bring forth an understanding of the feminine element as essential to the path, but some of the language used suggests that the feminine, though necessary, is still lesser. Even so, it's a good article with some good practice ideas.

Later in the article, after suggesting ways in which Tara practice is crucial to the path, he states:
It is important to incorporate the feminine principle into our practice, because we cannot achieve the ultimate attainment of enlightenment without perfecting both the male and female aspects. The ultimate development of the feminine within the individual is called the clear light, which might be described as the direct perception of emptiness. The ultimate development of the masculine is the illusion body. The combination of the two is what we call union. As I said, this is the union of enlightened mind and enlightened body.
I am new to this element of tantra, but it seems that the enlightened body is equated with masculine and enlightened mind with feminine. Is this true?

If so, it's exactly opposite of the Western view of body as feminine and mind as musculine. I find that intriguing. Anyone have any thoughts on this?


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