Connectedness, Intimacy, and Self

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Some wisdom from The Art of Intimacy:

"Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others."

~ Harriet Lerner

Healing relationships often requires healing ourselves.

Wanting intimacy with our partner often means working through our own issues, difficulties, and insecurities, for as we become whole, our relationships can blossom.

This is the hard truth of relationships that a lot of people don't want to look at. There is no better crucible than a relationship for exposing our wounds and our issues. The path to true intimacy requires us to pay attention to those things that get exposed and to heal them. If we don't, the relationship will lose its intimacy and begin to crumble.

Tags: Harriet Lerner, intimacy, relationships, healing ourselves