tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13617569.post115945369960558052..comments2024-03-27T02:13:58.088-07:00Comments on Integral Options Cafe: Aftermath, Part Two: Inner Voice: Despairwilliam harrymanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06981478282688361274noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13617569.post-1159498846618765522006-09-28T20:00:00.000-07:002006-09-28T20:00:00.000-07:00Thanks Erica -- I'm learning who my real friends a...Thanks Erica -- I'm learning who my real friends are. :)<BR/><BR/>Nice quote Tom, I agree.<BR/><BR/>But I respectfully disagree about the subs. If I bury them, they go into the shadow and become disowned selves. Then they get projected all over the people in my life. That's a mess I don't want to ever deal with again -- once was enough.<BR/><BR/>Peace,<BR/>Billwilliam harrymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06981478282688361274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13617569.post-1159471116624113682006-09-28T12:18:00.000-07:002006-09-28T12:18:00.000-07:00Bill,I am in disagreement with Erica; I think you ...Bill,<BR/><BR/>I am in disagreement with Erica; I think you should be gently whacked in the head.<BR/><BR/>I know nothing, but I think you should put your subpersonalities in a bag and lock 'em in the closet. Stop reproaching yourself! You acted in inspiration of the moment; you made "mistakes," probably, but maybe not. That was then.<BR/><BR/>Look. I found this in my reading. Some of your subpersonalities will find it reproachful. May be a suppressed subpersonality of two will find it inspiring.<BR/><BR/>"In letting someone else into your life, you open yourself to the risk of being astonished. For intimacy to remain alive, the ohter must remain a mystery for you. To know someone intimately is to honor them as embodying an unknown. However well you know and trust them, you cannot afford the complacency of taking them for granted. A beloved partner in a life-long relationship can be capricious and unpredictable. When caught in Mara's snare you prefer not to see this. Over time, you tend to enclose the other within limits that define them according to your own needs an desires."<BR/><BR/>It is the last paragraph in a chapter called "Do Not Hurt Me" in a book by Stephen Batchelor.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13718601770472939313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13617569.post-1159458974068629892006-09-28T08:56:00.000-07:002006-09-28T08:56:00.000-07:00Bill I am so sorry that you have to go through wit...Bill I am so sorry that you have to go through with this. I wish that it could be easier. Your friends are with you. <BR/><BR/>EricaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com